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From Roxane Gay to Cheryl Strayed 28 groundbreaking writers share their visceral heart bending stories about the everlasting magic and unavoidable misery of living in New York City In 1967 Joan Didion wrote an essay called Goodbye to All That a work of such candid and penetrating prose that it soon became the gold standard for personal essays Like no other story before it Didion's tale of loving and leaving New York captured the mesmerizing allure Manhattan has always had for writers poets and wandering spirits In this captivating collection 28 writers take up Didion's literary legacy by sharing their own New York stories Their essays often begin as love stories do with the passion of something newly discovered the crush of subway crowds the streets filled with manic energy and the certainty that this is the only place on Earth where one can become exactly who she is meant to be They also share the grief that comes when the metropolis loses its magic and the pressures of New York's frenetic life wear thin on even the most fervent dwellers As friends move away rents soar and love still remains just out of reach each writer's goodbye to New York is singular and universal like New York itself With Cheryl Strayed Dani Shapiro Emma Straub Ann Hood and

10 thoughts on “Goodbye to All That

  1. says:

    Every essayI wanted to come to New York because it seemed cool and where I'm from people wouldn't know cool if it froze their nuts Then I did a bunch of stuff and got fed up and moved upstate because you get tired y'know? If only my younger self could see me No jk they'd be proud because this was the plan all along And I am proud And everyone I know is proud of me too Including my younger self Also I still keep my metrocard in my wallet to remind me who I am A person proud to have had such wonderful foresight re metrocard in my wallet

  2. says:

    Well full disclosureI edited this book And conceived of it in general And wrote the intro an essay and So I'm not exactly impartial

  3. says:

    My first hand experience with New York City took place in August 1971 as a small boy on holiday to visit relatives there In the intervening years I’ve visited New York 4 other times seeing it from a variety of angles and perspectives But never with a desire to live there “Too big too crazy” I’d always say to myself Notwithstanding that I have had at times an overweening curiosity as to why other people outsiders to the Big Apple like me have fallen so deeply passionately IN LOVE with the metropolis that they have eagerly uprooted themselves to live and work there to experience “the New York state of life” and make it theirs Here in “GOODBYE TO ALL THAT Writers on Loving and Leaving New York” the reader is given entrée to the heart and soul of the City through the essays of a number of writers who at various times in their lives have lived there and thoroughly immersed themselves in its culture spirit and its seemingly inexhaustible frenetic energy What is also eually revelatory are the essays whose writers are Native New Yorkers eg Emily Carter Roiphe and Rebecca Wolff who later in life left the City to live elsewhere It is one thing to take on New York as an outsider and then to hear from someone who has known it from birth through all its various changes and incarnations From a city that tottered on the brink of bankruptcy and apparent irrevocable decline in the 1970s to retrenchment and steady renewal during the 1980s to dizzying growth in corporate and personal wealth a lot of it triggered by the dot com boom in the 1990s to the exponential boom in gentrification in its neighborhoods since 2000 New York seems to have now become of a rarified gated community for the wealthy and powerful with little space for struggling artists actors and writers to live comfortably and thrive there Reading these wonderful insightful and at times deeply affecting essays with the exception of one essay I thoroughly disliked; the author unlike the other essayists spoke in the 3rd person with a smugness and arrogance that was very off putting to say the least was one of the most thoroughly enjoyable reading experiences I’ve had this year For anyone with the slightest curiosity or obsessive fascination with “the city that doesn’t sleep” you won’t go wrong by reading “GOODBYE TO ALL THAT”

  4. says:

    Of my friends who have left New York most of them have left for the sort of torn bittersweet reasons that most of the writers in this anthology have left for space is available elsewhere time exhausted by the embarrassing rents going to graduate school having grown up here and wearied of it realizing that the promise of a new self is just an inside job and you don't have to stay here to pull it off and in some cases have to move on in order to and by and large are not dicks about it There are exceptions but for the most partThis anthology is about like that no one on the high horse about what a schmuck you are to still live here everyone a little sad they had to let go a lot of them missing it badly many of them having returned sinceThe essays range from good to great and this is definitely worth reading if you're thinking about moving here have moved here or used to live here I liked itOh and also and this is peripheral but is always for me kind of an extra gold standard gold star it is totally the kind of book that makes you want to write your own story about New York I love books that make you feel like you are part of the world and have things to share with it Everyone write your essay And send them to me i like to read

  5. says:

    Terrible book I couldn't finish it because it was like being trapped in a summer internship at Seventeen Magazine Let me explain All the contributors are women for some odd reason and this is the effect the contributors all love and hate New York in the same ditzy emotional ways they love and hate the men mostly losers who seem to govern their choices over where to live Look it's just a city No no less Everyone in this book needs to get over themselves and go live in Dubuue

  6. says:

    I started reading this book because as a native New Yorker desperate to leave New York I was curious to read about other perspectives In that sense this essay collection was a bit of a disappointment because most of the essays were from transplants rather than natives and even the natives shared nothing in common with my experience they were all white or somewhat wealthy and all from Manhattan More generally speaking I was disappointed that most of the contributors to this book are middle class white women I could have used a lot diversity especially considering that New York City is home to the biggest immigrant population in the country Despite that not a single essay in this book is from the perspective of an immigrant or a child of first generation immigrants Most of the contributors are also much older than I am which means they have written about New York City of the 70s 80s and 90s a city that is almost entirely unfamiliar to me I was born in '92 Still it was fascinating to read about just how different the city was back then the danger the seediness the art the allure Compared to that city today's city feels like a soulless corporate huskSeveral themes come up again and again The idea of New York City as a fantasy or an escape The cost of rent this comes up so often as it rightfully should given the city's ridiculous housing market The effect of the September 11 attacks The glitz and glamour of the city juxtaposed with the poverty Many of these themes resonated with me as did the references to various locations and restaurants but many of the essays made me feel bereft These writers in moving to New York City truly experienced the city They lived I've lived in the city most of my life and I haven't experienced a fraction of what these writers have Is it because I'm a native and I take the city for granted? Most of the essays were top notch stylistically speaking and some were absolutely excellent I think maybe only one was kind of boring? They're all written in a relatively straightforward manner even with all the divergences in style and tone I intentionally slowed down my reading of this book because reading huge chunks of it in one sitting made it feel repetitive so I read only a couple of essays every few daysI have to comment on the essay the book is named after Incidentally I do wish that Joan Didion's essay had been included in this book so that I didn't have to hunt down a suspicious looking PDF of it Honestly so many of the essays in this book blew Didion's out of the water Her essay felt very nebulous to me and I was unimpressed Perhaps I need to read it again carefully to understand the purported genius of it

  7. says:

    This is a rough book to read if you've recently hit the 5 years in New York mark and are contemplating an exit if only to the 'burbs It's a nostalgia ride nostalgia for a place this is still in the present time feeling the eventual loss before it's even happenedBut before I slip into an emotional reverie about living in or out of New York City I want to comment on the actual collection of essays Reading it felt a bit like an anthology version of the movie Groundhog Day starting each essay anew only to follow the same cycle of Young Girl visits city dreams of living there some day to be a Writer does so enjoys the challenge for awhile until debtdrugsdepressionruined marriages catch up to her moves upstate or to a foreign country where she doesn't speak the language reflects Might as well hashtag the whole thing with #FirstWorldProblemsOne essay that stopped me in my tracks was Valerie Eagle's View From the Penthouse Eagle recounts a much different experience than all the others telling of her struggle with drugs and homelessness that nearly took her life Wow Just wow It's not to say that the other writers' experiences weren't authentic or that an essayist has to deal with such heavy issues to produce good writing but this is just a really powerful piece It leads me to wonder whether this volume would be that much better had Botton asked individuals other than female writers to include their experiences Or if some of the authors had not penned self reflective pieces but instead interviewed former New Yorkers from other walks of life chefs first responders finance guys working class immigrants Would they still wax romantic about the Subway and rent controlled apartments? What is it about this place that keeps the dreamers buying one way tickets in and is it even possible to be a well adjusted lifer? Because Didion was definitely on to something and though I was left wanting a little Botton's collection is a worthy homage

  8. says:

    I couldn't finish itSuper boringPlus almost all of the stories are written from the perspective of people who are not native New Yorkers It's a bunch of whiny people who came and tried to make itI think the book would have been a lot better were it from the view of a native New Yorkers who no longer wanted to struggle in the dog eat dog aspect of this cityThat would have made for an entirely better book IMHO

  9. says:

    Whiney entitled late 20 something women who thought going to NY would transform them into interesting non whiney entitled jerks Most moved away due to having kids and succumbing to a life of boredom in the suburbs or not being able to accept the reality of needing a real job One writer was actually a NYC native and she was different only in the way that she whined about NY and how it used to be cool man Maybe 2 essays in this book were worthwhile TL;DR What a pile of piss

  10. says:

    I was uite proud of myself smug really because I had the great idea to give this to a friend who was leaving NYC for Silicon Valley She was touched So far so good Then I bought a copy for myself because I love half the writers in this collection Roxane Gay Dani Shapiro Cheryl Strayed and was looking forward to discovering the others So I read the book in a day and loved it but now I understand a little too well why most of the writers left I recommend this for anyone who hates New York City left New York City can't afford New York City wants to live in New York City someday or has to live in New York City for work but doesn't want to be here Also great for people living in New York City who you're trying to convince to move to Portland Oregon or Redondo Beach California Be careful about giving this book to current residents because they'll suddenly have wonderfully vivid anecdotes to rationalize why they should move