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Wow What a b tch. ButButMirandahow can you not love, cherish and worship a suicide book Hannah was so brave, she dealt with life the best way she couldBlah, blah, blah.Are you sitting down Good, cause things are about to get ranty.HUGE MOTHER EFFING DISCLAIMER If you absolutely loved this book or if you think it really helped you through a tough time I have absolutely no problem with that You are completely and utterly entitled to your opinion on this novel just like I m entitled to hate it with every fiber of my being My hatred can be split into four parts The Message to the Target Audience, Glamorous Suicide, The Absolutely Terrible Excuse for A Main Character and Were you Raped Sorry, it s Me Time Now The Message to the Target Audience aka just kill yourself. As an 25 year old adult, I am able to read this book and take a step back to truly appreciate the full wrath of Hannah She s able to absolutely crumble the lives of the bullies, extract sweet revenge on her ex friends and even get the boy she likes to admit that he really, really likes her.And how does she do that By killing herself.Let me repeat that she s able to accomplish all her wildest dreamsBy Killing Herself. And the target audience Preteens teens Kids who are already thinking of suicide and are curious to see what happens after.And how does the author a grown adult advise them Just kill yourself and everything will be better after you die I cannot begin to express how furious that made me Okay, okay I will admit that there is another message one of accepting, embracing and truly caring for your peers before something tragic happensbut, I d like to remind you, how do we reach this conclusion Well, Hannah only had to off herself for this to happen Kill yourself and the world becomes a better place Glamorous Suicide aka suicide is a wondrous method to bring about change. This is in a somewhat similar vein to the previous but did anyone else notice how beautiful and poetical her suicide was How all the bullies were cowed How all her friends regretted not appreciating her when she was alive How everyone felt bad about not being nicer.Even her suicide was a graceful fade to black.The book doesn t show any negative repercussions for her actions just that everything is better after she s gone.And while maybe some kids may react the same as the ones portrayed in this book, I d wager that most teens out there won t fall perfectly into the,Oh poor Hannah such a tragic little victimcategory.Most teens won t have the self reflection and emotional awareness shown in this novel She ll become a footnote, a blip on their radar, and they ll move on Absolutely Terrible Excuse for a Main Character aka what a b tch I am of the firm belief that if something tragic, or some self inflicted tragedy, befalls the main character, does not erase their sins Just because they did some grand, meaningful gesture, does not mean everything they did is given the rose tinted glasses.And what Hannah did was absolutely inexcusable Most suicides according to google are due to mental illness 90% i.e clinical depression, bipolar, etc or due to an impulse decision triggered by a great tragedy overwhelming circumstances From my admittingly untrained eye, Hannah experiences neither of these And I believe that if the author wanted us to see either one of those cases, he would have made that abundantly clear Which makes Hannah s premeditated revenge odd, to say the least She picks out thirteen people who she s perceived wronged her and sets about to find the most hurtful and vengeful way to ruin their lives She wants to make her suicide count by destroying these other teen s lives so thoroughly that they become traumatized and absolutely terrified for the rest of their days.So, who are these life ruiners you ask Who are these absolute monsters who made Hannah s life a living hell Pushing her every day closer to oblivion Her first kiss now, the guy did brag that he got a bit further than a first kiss with her, but to pin her suicide on him On a kid who likely felt inadequate and just wanted to seem older experienced among his friend group A friend who drifted apart from her sure this girl wasn t Hannah s bestie for life, but isn t she allowed to choose who her friends were She and Hannah drifted apart, just like millions of girls throughout high schoolbut no Hannah has to make sure this girl KNOWS that stopping friendships with ANYONE is a direct cause for suicide A guy who said she has a nice ass I m all for not objectifying women, but really She s trying to pin her suicide on a teenage guy who said she has a nice ass A nice girl who ended up not being super nice this girl was polite to Hannah, hung out a couple of times, but ultimately did not want to become best friends Well, now she knows that if she is not ABSOLUTELY PERFECTLY NICE AND FRIENDLY with everyone she meets, then they may kill themselves in revenge A guidance counselor who didn t stop her suicide In Hannah s version, he was the last straw between her and oblivion And he failed He failed her, her parents and the school.To expect one man to completely turn around a suicidal girl especially one who premeditates her suicide to such an extent that she uses it as a weapon against other kids is in my opinion horribly unrealistic.And that s the thing that everyone seems to forget these people who caused her suicide are kids Teenagers with their own troubles, trials and tribulations They re wading through the murky waters of high school with as much direction as Hannah.And in her anger, fury and spite, she puts them all on the same playing field The peeping Tom and rapist somehow contributed equally to the guy who stole the compliments from her compliment box Apparently, no one commenting about your haircut is just as likely to send you into a suicidal spiral as privacy violations Were you Raped Sorry, it s Me Time Nowaka My God Hannah, What s Wrong With YouI will admit there were some of the kids that had it coming i.e the rapist and the peeping Tom they should have been called out on their actions But, instead of going to the authorities and actually doing something about this, Hannah just outs them in one of her tapes And, it gets better, she never sends a tape to the rapist Instead, she sends it to her ex friend, the girl who was drunk and barely conscious throughout the rape, and Hannah blames her suicide on her.That s right, the RAPE victim learns that she s RAPED on Hannah s suicide tape, that Hannah and the boy the rape victim liked did nothing about it.AND what s Hannah s interpretationYou, ex friend, caused my suicide cause you didn t want to be friends for lifeAnd to that I say A GOOD RIDDANCE Dropping Hannah like a hot tamale was obviously the right choice B Can you even begin to imagine learning that happened to you while your so called friend was hanging out in the closet of the same room And what was Hannah doing What was SO CRAZY IMPORTANT that she just couldn t stop her friend from being raped Having a tipsy mental breakdown because A the boy she liked her tried to kiss her and B when she said no, he stopped Excuse me, but how was THAT important that preventing an ex friend from getting RAPED Literally all Hannah had to do was step out of the closet and he d be scared off.But noooooo, Hannah decides to make the suicide tapes LONG after all the evidence has been washed away to let everyone know that she s the victim That SHE deserves the pity and sympathy.I m sorry, I m sure there are many MANY ways to interpret this book, but I just can t see feeling sympathy for the girl who killed herself over nice ass and friends not staying friends vs the one who was raped while her best friend guy she liked watched and then was blamed for a suicide This is the sort of revenge Hannah decides to extract on these teens It s unforgivable I can t believe I wasted my time with this ANOTHER BIG MOTHER EFFING DISCLAIMER cause apparently my first one was not enough Yes, this is my opinion This is my interpretation of this novel Is it the right one Maybe and maybe not.If this book is perfect in your eyes, if it really saved you, I am not discounting that experience This book has a LOT of potential to bring about difficult discussions but I feel that the way it is written is problematic to say the least But again, this is one take on the novel Audiobook CommentsThe one thing I couldn t fault this book on was the choice of narrators Joel Johnstone and Debra Wiseman were absolutely perfect throughout this book The way they played off of each other, the way they conveyed emotions amazing through and through The 2018 Finer Books Club Reading Challenge A book with a number in the titleBlog Instagram Twitter When you mess with one part of a person s life, you re messing with their entire life Everything affects everythingSometimes it s hard to see why other people might dislike a book you enjoy, but with Thirteen Reasons Why, I can understand it perfectly.It is told from the perspective of Clay, but is mostly about the life of Hannah a girl who recently killed herself After her death, Clay receives a set of cassette tapes on which Hannah explains the thirteen reasons why she decided to kill herself And he is one of them.It is extremely compelling unputdownable almost but a problem many readers have is that the book relies on your sympathy for Hannah to effectively relay its message, and yet Hannah comes off as bratty, selfish and ofttimes over sensitive Many of her reasons are things that everyone has experienced at some point and people generally file those under bad days and definitely don t kill themselves because of it But actually, I completely understood and sympathized with Hannah As a suicide survivor, I even related to her at times And, though I don t attempt to speak for everyone, I feel in a position to attest that there can be something bratty and selfish about suicide I think this book captured a certain feeling very well and I disagree with those who thought Hannah wasn t realistically suicidal It s true that nobody kills themselves because they get stood up, and nobody kills themselves because some douche groped their ass, and nobody kills themselves because of a mean rumour but each of these is a little bit added to the weight that is crushing down on someone.People like to look for clear cut reasons that make sense They want Hannah to give a good reason why she killed herself But, in reality, it so rarely is one big reason you can point to Most of the time, the little things all build up, day after day, one small thing after another, until the little reasons all blend into a single feeling of hopelessness.That is what this book is about And it s also about taking responsibility for your actions and understanding how your small selfish acts can affect someone else.I did not have an issue believing in or finding sympathy for Hannah My only real issue with this book was Clay, the revelation about him, and the way he viewed the truth about Hannah Clay changes his mind about Hannah based on what he hears and decides she did not deserve to be slut shamed because the rumours weren t true But would she have deserved the treatment any if she had done what the rumours said No is the answer And I wish the book had taken the opportunity to address that.But otherwise, this is a creative pageturner, even if it seems a bit strange that cassette tapes were being used in 2007 I liked it a lot and it really made me think.Blog Facebook Twitter Instagram Youtube Pinterest THIRTEEN REASONS WHY I HATE THIS BOOK.Note, 6 10 17 Tape 11 has been updated.https emmareadstoomuch.wordpress.coAlright I really thought I wasn t going to review this book But a status sharing certain anti anti13 Reasons Why sentiments did that make sense just came up onto my timeline, and I, to put it cordially, fucking snapped.Let me preface this by saying If this book or television show helped you in any way, this review is not for you We all have our coping mechanisms, we all have our favorite books I am absolutely not here to shit on anyone s fave If you liked this book, that s good Please don t read this I reserve the right not to be nice to you if you comment on this saying I m being unfair.So There are two sides to this debate One side thinks this book and the son of Satan television show it spawned is inspiring, important, other positive i words The other side the side of my brethren, which is, unsurprisingly to anyone who follows me on here, staggeringly outnumbered DISAGREES I m going to try to outline for you why I feel that way Disclaimer If this at any point seems like I m telling you you re not allowed to be a fan of this shit, I m not But I passionately hate it, so don t expect objectivity Also, this contains spoilers for both the book and the show, of course.Let s get started I ll organize this by my very own thirteen reasons.TAPE 1 The book and the show DON T bring attention to mental illness.That s one of the biggest defenses I ve seen of this story That yes, it s triggering and yes, it s intense and yes, it s hard to talk about But it s important.Here s the thing Hannah Baker is not a mentally ill character.My friend, who I will talk about later, informed me that the show never says the word depression Hannah doesn t get help The show doesn t depict the benefits of getting help More on that in a later tape I don t think she gets diagnosed with anything, or is medicated, or shows symptoms of depression that are identifiable.So how the fucking fuck is this an improved discussion of mental illness if it s never goddamn talked about TAPE 2 Suicide glorification.Everyone s thought about suicide Especially in those tender, self centered years in middle and high school If I died, then they would know. The mean girls would regret their choices, the guy who never noticed you would wish he had, your friends would worship your memory, your school would make you a martyr.But that s not how it works.As you mature, you recognize that When you die, it s over for you You don t get to grow up But everyone you ever knew does And here s the bitter truth They re not going to analyze their choices and regret them They might not even remember you They, after all, like you, are only teenagers.But not in the world of Thirteen Reasons Why No, if you re Hannah Baker, it s quite the opposite.You are talked about beyond life You act as a hero, distributing punishments and harsh words as you see fit, with no repercussions for your actions You re a perfect saint, your death preventing anyone from speaking negatively about you Your old friends will miss you, the bullies will be humiliated and that humiliation wills them into realizations, the boy you liked desperately wishes that he had just told you he liked you too.And for some reason, it s okay for you to blame your fellow high schoolers just as vulnerable and worried and uncertain as you ever were for your death No one will criticize you for placing that unfair burden on them For telling the friend you grew apart from that it s her fault For telling the people you wronged it s on them.God, you guys This isn t what happens if a teenager commits suicide This isn t what we should be portraying as a realistic image of what could ever, ever happen.TAPE 3 Think about who is WATCHING this.Remember earlier, how I posited that most everybody has thought about suicide at least in the abstract And how that most often happens in middle and high school Well, guess who this show s target demographic is That s right The same vulnerable, depressed, self hating group that already has the tendency to think of suicide as an appropriate option.I have three younger siblings My sisters are seventeen and fifteen my brother is twelve My sisters and each and every one of their friends have watched this fucking show I begged my brother not to watch it, even though all of his friends have seen it.Do you understand that My twelve year old brother is being left out of conversations, jokes, references, group chats and budding friendships because he hasn t watched a show that centers on suicide and sexual assault Do you see what the stakes of this are I m not just some melodramatic reviewer without a life, trying to ruin a show that people like.Every student in every middle and high school in America will be told to watch this show And the author, the producers, the directors and adapters, couldn t even be bothered to consider the repercussions of their actions.TAPE 4 Having problems Just kill yourself.This show doesn t depict the benefits of therapy, of antidepressive medication hard when your protagonist doesn t have a diagnosis , of confiding in your loved ones The only potential solution offered within the narrative is suicide And, as I talked about earlier, it works out pretty fucking well for Hannah Baker.TAPE 5 Why is this being treated like fucking Bring It On I swear to God I m going to open Facebook tonight and someone will have shared a Buzzfeed quiz called How Would You Kill Yourself If You Were On Thirteen Reasons Why Y all can t fucking have this both ways Pick a lane is this show intense and important, bringing attention to under discussed issues in a serious and mature way, or do you want to know which character you are based on your cupcake preferences This either is or isn t a joke It s up to you.TAPE 6 There s a difference between triggering content and this.The show gives trigger warnings Cool That s not even sarcastic I think that s great.But if you ve seen the show, you know some of the graphic imagery goes so fucking beyond what any viewer would expect.My friend, who has struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts, and is triggered by sexual assault, had a series of panic attacks due to this show But she finished it against my urging because she thought it would give some important message or theme to the audience watching it But it doesn t And she put herself through that for nothing.TAPE 7 This isn t how suicidal thoughts work.Hannah has reasons for committing suicide It s like there was a straw that broke the camel s back Suicidal thoughts aren t like that.If you re thinking seriously about committing suicide, it s not because of a baker s dozen carefully delineated causes It s because everything feels impenetrably, incurably, never endingly awful It feels like there are no bright spots and no way out The difference Everybody feels like Hannah Baker does Everybody has the humiliating moments and regrets that, like, haunt them before they sleep every night But not everybody has severe depression Trying to equate the two is HORRIFIC It both reduces the trauma of having depression and indicates suicide as an option for people who may have never considered it otherwise.TAPE 8 Don t tell teenagers not to go to authority figures.Making the guidance counselor a villain is maybe one of the most irresponsible attempts at drama in this stupid fucking narrative The absolute last thing you should be doing is giving any indication to a vulnerable group that going to a trusted adult won t work out well.Teenagers everywhere This book and show are total fucking bullshit Your guidance counselors know exactly what to do If you re feeling like something is wrong, or experiencing suicidal thoughts, tell someone If you feel safe to confide in a guidance counselor, do it If you don t, find another trusted adult A teacher, a parent, a school administrator Anything Just don t take this bullshit for an example.TAPE 9 The experts say fuck this.https www.usatoday.com story opiniohttps www.washingtonpost.com news ahttp www.rollingstone.com tv featurThere s a bajillion articles on this, but I m already shaking with anger TAPE 10 Say the word depression.How goddamn hard is it Fuck your quasi advocacy.TAPE 11 This is an instruction manual.One morning, I ll wake up to my phone alarm Check my notifications, see one from The Washington Post Normal, when we haven t had a slow news day in a year But the headline won t be political It ll be something like, Teen Suicide Appears Inspired By Netflix Show And I ll know, instantly Feel awful for that poor vulnerable kid, but also think, Of course. Think, Why didn t anybody see this coming At least the book didn t tell the reader how to slit their wrists Update, 6 10 17 It happened cyborgcinderella brought this to my attention in the comments, because this isn t even getting the press coverage I expected A 23 year old in Peru committed suicide and left tapes And no one is under the impression that this will be the only one one headline reads, The 13 Reasons Why Copycat Suicides May Have Started Why, why, why, why would this show be given a second season TAPE 12 Look at all these beautiful teens.I m just saying, it probably doesn t make your depressed audience of teenagers feel better if they spend the bajillion hours this show lasts staring at impossibly gorgeous adults. It s a cast of classically good looking twenty somethings wearing natural makeup, with idealized bodies and perfect hair.That s not different from any other teen show It just feels especially significant when you think about how smugly this show pats itself on the back.TAPE 13 That goddamn ending.It s laughable This show just makes no fucking sense.Bottom line I HATE this book and show like I ve never hated anything I m worried about everyone I know who has seen it I m worried about every teenager who has heard about it And I m worried about the precedent this sets for irresponsibly using suicide as a plot point, without care for who it hurts.Fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck this book, this show, Jay Asher, and anyone who had any part in bringing it into existence. oh god, somebody buy this girl some perspective oh wait, you can t because she s dead and i, for one, am glad of it because this character would have grown up to be a rotten judgmental schoolmarmy horrorshow of an adult just horrible.and people love this book like cookies backtrack plot a girl kills herself but before she goes, she makes a series of audio cassettes and mails them to an individual, with instructions to pass them along to the next person mentioned on the tapes, which are a chronicle of all the things that were done to her that made her kill herself it was because of you and you and you the blame game, afterlife edition what a dick, right and i understand the idea of cause and effect, and that teenagers of all people, need to be conscious of the effects their actions have on the feeeeelings of others, and this book is meant to highlight that even the smallest things can have a profound effect on a person s life, but ugh this character is appalling and does she not realize the effect her accusations are going to have on the recipients of the tapes because it is a shitty thing to do when people can t defend themselves, particularly since the awful tragic things that happened to her are pretty standard stuff we have all been through mostly nothing suicide worthy, frankly and nothing to make other people feel shitty about for the rest of their lives when you are sitting on the same side of a booth at a diner with a boy on valentines day and you are laughing and you put your head on his shoulder and he puts his hand on your leg, that is not a problem, it is called flirtation and if you don t like it, use your words, and if that doesn t work, get physical which she does and succeeds so what s with all the boo hoos that no one came to your rescue princess, no one is ever going to come to your rescue you did what you were supposed to do feel proud and call it a day a somewhat shitty day, but no reason to kill yourself she basically uses her suicide to scold boys who have flirted with her or tried to hook up with her.or said she had a nice ass these are teenagers they are going to try to hook up with anything that is still breathing i have dodged many an unwanted advance in my early years, and i have exhaustedly given in to others as the path of least resistance, but that s youth, right chalk everything up to a learning experience and laugh about it in your adulthood are we supposed to feel that she is empowered for taking her life because i don t i fel like she had a normal sized problem that she willingly made a little bigger in a hot tub, but honestly, suburban new hampshire white girl, here is a book called push go read that and tell me you have problems.i know i gave this three stars, and it is because i did like the way the story was told, as a split narrative between the transcripts of the tapes, and the voice of a boy who is one of the accused, as we wait for his part in it to unfold, as he wonders what she thinks he did to her anticlimax, btw but so as a plot driven quasi mystery book, it definitely held my interest, but the whole time, i couldn t help thinking what a brat she was and how unfair some of her accusations were, particularly to the narrator and the last recipient of the tapes sheesh brat if she heard me say that, she would try really hard to come back to life so she could make me a tape telling me how i wounded her soul and then she would kill herself again to make me feel guilty but i would not come to my blog I figured this deserved a real review.I m a bipolar chick I m a girl who has struggled with suicidal thoughts since she was nine years old at the very latest And I just do not buy 13RW s representation of a suicidal girl The very premise of the book is flawed to me you don t kill yourself for REASONS, you kill yourself because there is a bug in your brain gnawing at you and sucking out any valuable thought you ve ever had, and I never saw that kind of bug in Hannah I saw a girl who killed herself because boys were mean to her, and I think that if you reversed the sexes and made it a boy who killed himself for Hannah s reasons, no one would have bought it.It s a symptom of a larger epidemic you see all the times in discussions of girls with mental illness Boys are legitimately fucked up and have genuine struggles with mental health, but girls are hysterical Hannah s depression is entirely circumstantial, as is her suicide, and I just do not buy it.Not to mention I think it s a complete cop out to have Clay be the only guy on the list who didn t fuck her up Of COURSE the narrator didn t screw up, right It was compelling, I ll give it that I read it in one night about five years ago. WARNING I did not like this book If you did, and would hate it if someone me ranted and bitched about it, then DO NOT READ THIS REVIEW.REVIEW I don t know why this book is so popular And I honestly don t know what all the rave is about I heard so many great things about this novel, that s why I read it While this was a good book, well written and all the plot was just not good enough no, the reasons leading to Hannah Baker killing herself were not believable enough for me I mean sure, they did some horrible things to her in high school, that doesn t mean you should just go off and commit suicide As far as I m concerned, those kinds of situations happen to everyone And I don t believe for one second that no one noticed that she wanted to commit suicide What about her haircut Didn t the author mention that the teacher passed out a flyer called The Warning Signs of a Suicidal Individual And wasn t there A sudden change in appearance on top of the list What about Giving away possessions Didn t they discuss suicide in the same class Didn t Hannah leave an anonymous note telling the teacher that After she told Mr Porter And he didn t stop her Come on, they couldn t have been that dumb Hannah, above all, just sounded whiny And I just couldn t sympathize with her character And committing suicide and then blaming people for it is just a stupid excuse for killing herself She was the one that decided to kill herself, not them not anyone She just needed someone to blame And poor Clay If Clay wasn t one of the reasons Hannah killed herself, then why put him through the agony Why give him the tapes She could ve just written him a letter And Tony Hannah put even the ones that had nothing to do with her in pain For example what did Tony do to her Because I know he was hurting, too He felt helpless because he couldn t have saved her It was also very difficult and confusing to keep up with what Clay and Hannah said thought One second I m reading in Clay s point of view, the next Hannah s And sometimes I had to reread a whole paragraph because I got the POV wrong in my head.Also, I think suicide is a very serious issue so I didn t really buy Jay Asher s portrayal of Hannah s feelings If someone wanted to commit suicide, their emotion had to be deeper, stronger than just hatred and petty resentment for having a bad reputation in High School Therefore, I thought Hannah s emotions weren t very serious, even childish and overly dramatic at times And after finishing the books I was like, seriously That s why she killed herself I honestly felt like Asher was making fun of the teens who have been through terrible things in their life and are still trying to stay strong after everything they ve been through This was like telling them, what the heck, end your life if you re so miserable UPDATE Just found out this is going to be a movie Starring Selena Gomez.Also, if you want to know about Hannah s reasons, read message 6. EDIT AND UPDATE, 2017 I read this book back in 2014 when I was a teen and I hated it I still hate it My review is getting a lot of traffic atm so I m just going to do a little update and leave you some links to better reviews that tell how problematic the story is Tweet thread on the problematic show.Article on why it s dangerous.Goodreads review on why it s seriously bad NOTE I m not responding to comments because wtf is going on in the comment section I have no idea I m sorry my review is distraught and emotional than analytical and full of logical reasoning I don t care if you like this book, but be respectful of people who say it s triggering, problematic, and sends a dangerous message about romanticising suicide and condoning revenge suicide I have also had to talk someone down from killing themselves and let me tell you It was the worst moment of my life I still nearly cry when I think about it Because if they d gone ahead to kill themselves, would I be to blame Any book that says that yes I would be to blame like this book is saying is poisonous.Please don t read it if you ve had suicidal thoughts or know people who ve committed suicide You won t be encouraged You ll be triggered I absolutely loathed this book And that s sayingsomething , because heck knows I always have positives to say about a book and I don t like to judge them too harshly But this one No I hated it I hated the message the author was sending I think it was wrong and cruel Obviously, this is just my opinion But I will enver recommend this book Obviously it s about suicide And I feel like the message was sowrongthat everyone is to blame for one person s suicide To a certain extent, that can be true Bullying, however subtle and off handed IS SO VERY WRONG But Hannah s whole send the tapes to the people who were involved in her death was a very kamikaze effect She was going down no matter what, SO let s take some suckers along I personally believe what Hannah did by sending those tapes out view spoiler especially to Clay, because SHE SAID he wasn t actually involved in her death hide spoiler I REALLY REALLY LOVED THIS BOOK I had heard very mixed things for some time and it seemed a lot of readers were very divided on this book, but I personally really loved it.I do want to say I don t think this is 100% the best book in the world for depression suicide, but I do believe it is an intersting narrative on how suicide impacts those affected, considering suicide is never a singular action I also don t necessarily agree with the content of the book as guilting and blaming those who s actions drove Hannah to her death is not an appropriate response that we should approve of, but I also don t feel this book condoned that idea Maybe the author did not go about things in the best way in my personal opinion but I do think the message that your actions influence others in ways you may not realize came across well The path to get there was not perfect, but the execution was I also despise the reviews on here saying that Hannah had no excuse to kill herself, she was not depressed enough and it wasn t believable for her to commit suicide because of these reasons Excuse me Work on your stigma regarding people with mental illness I am SO SO SORRY that you feel someone who is a victim of bullying, sexual harassment,t sexual assault, who reaches out for help and is told to move on is not a good enough excuse to kill themselves but I am NOT HERE for delegitimizing one s personal suffering because it wasn t something you have experienced God forbid my reason for being depressed was a chemical imbalance in my brain, can t imagine what you d think of MY excuse for attempting suicide rolls eyes Depression manifests in a multitude of ways People commit suicide for a variety of reasons I ve been diagnosed with clinical depressed and spent most of my adolescence in a cycle of self harm and suicidal ideation Can I related to Hannah Baker No, I cannot Our stories are very different But that does not mean it is impossible for her experience to exist, or that others will be unable to relate to what this poor girl went through If you view life through a singular lens, I promise, you will continually be let down by those who s lives do not perfectly mirror your own I also want to note that I DO see why this book has upset so many people I really do see the perspective of others who disagree with this book and don t feel it achieved what it was trying to, I just personally feel differently Overall, I really really enjoying the mere HOURS it took me to devour this book It was a great experience and I m glad I read it You Can T Stop The Future You Can T Rewind The PastThe Only Way To Learn The Secret Is To Press PlayClay Jensen Returns Home From School To Find A Strange Package With His Name On It Lying On His Porch Inside He Discovers Several Cassette Tapes Recorded By Hannah Baker His Classmate And Crush Who Committed Suicide Two Weeks Earlier Hannah S Voice Tells Him That There Are Thirteen Reasons Why She Decided To End Her Life Clay Is One Of Them If He Listens, He Ll Find Out Why Clay Spends The Night Crisscrossing His Town With Hannah As His Guide He Becomes A Firsthand Witness To Hannah S Pain, And As He Follows Hannah S Recorded Words Throughout His Town, What He Discovers Changes His Life Forever Update 7 10 15 A Conversation From Yesterday Co Worker My kid just read this book and loved it You are a reader, right If you haven t read it, you should read it Me What s it called CW Thirteen Reasons or something It s about suicide Me Hmmmm, yeah I think that sounds familiar Hold on lemme check checking GR and finding review CW You find it Me Um, yeah CW So you like it Me Umsure LMAO Original pre gif discovery Review I see that this book is pretty well loved and highly reviewed, but I quite frankly don t see the same beauty as everyone else So if you are someone who loved this book and loved Hannah, you should probably pass on my review because it might piss you off Mega Spoilers I know some read this book and see Hannah as a victim But I don t I see a hypocritical, self absorbed teenager who basically refused to take responsibility for herself and or her OWN actions because she was too busy analyzing OTHER people s actions and how those actions directly or indirectly affected Hannah Hannah s ridiculous 13 tape manifesto is all about laying people out for not seeing or simply failing to care how their actions affected Hannah But even through Hannah s own dialogue we see how she herself is guilty of using treating others just as thoughtlessly She plainly says that she asked Courtney over to her home not to befriend her but to help her catch Tyler peeping in her window with his camera Also, later she describes how she engages a random girl with whom she s never spoken to before in conversation in order to look beyond the girl s shoulder and catch Zach stealing notes out of her Encouragement bag How do you think THAT girl felt being used, Hannah How do you think Courtney felt being asked over to your house simply to playact for a peeping Tom On and on Hannah rants at everyone about how dare they do this and how dare they do that to her but seriously watching her hypocritically commit similar actions of insensitivity and constantly put herself in asinine situations completely undermined any sympathy I had for her Do I think it s fucked up that Tyler peeped into her window a situation that felt totally contrived Yes Is it fucked up she witnessed a rape and felt guilt for not acting to stop it Yes Same with the stop sign situation But by the time most of those things happen, she has already dug her own grave in her mind AND she did nothing to try and solve her own problems Being a teenager SUCKS Being a female teenager especially sucks But what Hannah failed to realize is that almost every other character in her story was just trying to do the same thing as her get by and get through I m all for being mindful of your words and trying to be aware of how your actions affect others however, you can only do your best but to think constantly about how your every word and action might affect someone else can result in complete paralyzation I m not anti suicide and I m not railing against Hannah for choosing that course I m just not down with the 13 tapes vilifying other people for not thinking about how every move they made affected Hannah At some point, you have to take responsibility for YOURSELF and your own actions You can t control what other people do and how they act, but you can control how you respond Hannah responded by CHOOSING to be a victim and blaming everyone else.